Balance. The very nature of the word should convey a sense of calmness given the actual definition of the word; “a condition in which different elements are equal or in the correct proportions.” In other words, “the ideal situation” as everything is right in the world. Instead, the word evokes almost a feeling of stress and a slight sense of panic because I NEED BALANCE BUT HOW IN THE HECK DO I FIND BALANCE?! Stressful, I know. I believe wholeheartedly that the majority of us are still figuring all this stuff out but everyday recognizing more and the more the importance of both working hard whilst enjoying life to the fullest.
As a woman, I personally struggle with this, especially in our day of “I am woman, hear me roar” because I’m a woman, I should be able to do it all…right? This time of change has found women wonderfully empowered to do so much more but suddenly also feeling completely overwhelmed. Our world of tech advancement and social media has brought us endless opportunities to reach once far off dreams such as remote working, traveling, creative endeavors, even the ability to do all those simultaneously! On top of that, boys/men are being taught and hearing of gender equality in a completely different way than 50 years ago and the standard roles of the past for “husband” and “wife” have started to dissipate and dissolve into completely new roles and methods. It’s so exciting but yet in this age of opportunity and a world where we can have it all, we come to find that “having it all” is exactly what often gets us into a state of chaos. Clearly, avoiding chaos would make for a healthier and more balanced life but the trick is, how?
If I know any two things in life, the first is to not let work take over your life, for you will lose yourself. How do we prevent this? ENLIST HELP. Find what you’re good at and then find those who are good at what you suck at and ask them for help. Seriously. Find those that combat your weaknesses who can help to free up your time and your headache space because at the end of the day, ain’t nobody got time for that amirite? An important part of balance is searching for and finding that understanding deep inside that we’re not superheroes able to do everything on our own and being ok with that. Accepting help does not make us “weak” or “less than” but instead showcases strength and wisdom for offering the best of your abilities and allowing others to step in where they are best suited. Yes, I am Woman, hear me roar BUT also hear me purr when I need help, Kthx.
The other piece of advice? The simple yet huge importance to the art of saying ‘No’. On top of all the good things mentioned with this day in age, it comes with its fair share of bad as well because uh hello, information overload galore! We can now log into Facebook and find 25 events per week happening within our city. We get FOMO from seeing social media posts from all our friends doing fun things, we get multiple texts a weekend asking us to come hang out, or help volunteer, or try out this class, or watch this new TV show, and the list goes on and on. Don’t get me wrong, these are all wonderful and exciting things that can enhance and brighten your life in their own way, but where we run into trouble is when we just do too much.
Rest and relaxation is the most essential piece to balance that I daresay the majority of us have the most trouble with accomplishing. Perhaps we feel guilty for taking time to just sit down and read a book? Or for taking your dog on a walk and inhaling the scent of nature around you instead of helping with a friends project? Or suppressing that urge to work an extra hour on Tuesday and instead head to a yoga class to stretch your body and meditate.
Whatever it takes for you to clear your mind, your soul, and ease your body, find it and do it for it is wildly important in order to keep balance for yourself. Saying “No” is often the only way to achieve these things that provide the R&R we all so dearly need and often lack. In the past, I’ve been challenged with simply saying “No” by various people in my life. When I started actually trying it, I suddenly felt lighter and more free because I was actively choosing where I allocated my time instead of letting it control me. Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of seeking control over what you don’t.
In the end, life is too short for anything mediocre or causing undue stress. Each of us have the ability to control what we want to control, if we only decide to act. We can all actively choose when we want to take the driver’s seat and go full steam ahead, or choose when we sit in the backseat and let someone else more capable of those roads take the lead, or when we calmly choose to say “Not today”, and politely step out of the car in order to just simply lay on our backs in a meadow full of flowers and stare at the clouds. Embrace this life for what you have and use it to start creating the life that you have always dreamed of. And baby, keep that hustle flow strong.
Hi! My name is Carrie Pickering and I am a wannabe creative who would love to work for herself one day. In the meantime while that dream is still being worked on, I am a Product Fulfillment Manager for a small tech company that builds event based mobile apps. This means I manage a team of iOS and Android developers on a daily basis, keeping all things organized and ensuring we fulfill our production goals on time.
My side hustle includes freelancing Digital Project Management work for any digital projects (ie. website, email marketing, tech etc) where my skills work to keep all project details organized, on time, and on/under budget.
As of yet I have no website but plan to one day! Dreams include: owning my own business/blog while traveling the world. You can follow me on Instagram @carrie_pickering