The truth is, I have a serious FOMO problem when any of my friends do something fun without me. It’s not that they don’t invite me. If I can’t attend it’s usually because I already have other plans that I am committed to and unfortunately I just can’t be everywhere at once.
But since I never want to miss out on anything, my iCal typically has a grey dot on every single day of the month. Speaking of my iCal, I have finally learned to embrace it and utilize it to its’ largest potential. There is really no other way to stay organized.
The reason I’m telling you this is because I want you to know that if you seriously struggle with keeping up with all of your friends, communicating with your family, and still maintaining an active dating life, you are not alone.
I didn’t even mention that little thing called working which requires quite a bit of time. The most difficult thing I have had to deal with lately is time management. And the part of life that I never want to be negatively affected are my relationships.
Do you want to know what else I have started doing? Adopting Siri as my digital personal assistant. I tell her to remind me of anything and everything, from “Siri, remind me to text Michele happy birthday tomorrow at 9am” to “Siri, remind me to email the staff about the dress code on Wednesday at 2pm.” This has been an absolute game changer.
No matter how organized you think you are, it’s easy to forget little things here and there throughout the week and Siri is the perfect “person” to give some extra responsibility to!
Another thing I’ve always done is connect all my different groups of friends. Not only do I want everyone I know to meet all of the other awesome people I know, but I want to be able to hang out with everyone at the same time some weeks. Not only is this a time saver, but it’s also just so much fun. Sometimes I’ll be out with a group of people and look around to realize that the only reason everyone knows each other is because I brought them all together. Collaboration isn’t just for business!
As far as guys go, don’t date anyone that isn’t dying to hang out with you every single day of the week. Does that mean you do that? Heck no. Who has time for that?! It means that if you happen to have a crazy week here and there with other things in life, you know he won’t complain about a breakfast date on a Tuesday instead of dinner on Friday because he just wants to spend time with you.
This doesn’t mean he is your last priority. It means that life gets busy. It’s just part of the hustle. But when you date someone who wants to get to know your friends and who wants to hang out with you any moment you are free, it makes it a little easier to balance everything without you being stuck with a load of guilt for needing to devote more time to one thing than another every once in awhile.
At the end of the day, it’s the healthy, fun and trustworthy relationships that deserve our time and attention. And we have to set aside time for God and ourselves, too. But I can pray and reflect while going on a hike, which counts as both alone time AND God time and I did it in the same hour. (That’s my favorite hour by the way.) Then, I can talk to my boyfriend on the phone hands-free using headphones while I get ready to go out with my girlfriends.
This keeps me from cutting into my 30 minute slot of time I set aside for getting ready when I really want to talk to my boyfriend. Lastly, you can’t be afraid to say “no.” I am open about the fact that I literally want to do everything and I really do try to. But at the end of the day, it’s good to stay in, cook dinner, and have a glass of wine by yourself every once in awhile.
This is a rare occurrence for me, but something I’m not afraid of doing if I need it. I’m really working on getting my FOMO problem under control and until I do, you probably won’t see me home and in pajamas before midnight any day of the week, even if my alarm is set for 6am the next day. And right now, I’m kind of okay with that.