Have you noticed that as a culture, we prize being busy? We try to outdo each other with cramming our days full of meetings, phone calls, errands, etc. Why is that? Why is that seen as a medal of honor?
Sometimes, it’s all I can do to go to work and cook dinner and get 8 hours of sleep. I don’t even have kids or a husband to take care of, just little ole me! I think we need to learn how to step back, take a deep breath (or two) and prioritize what matters most to us. Yes, there will be seasons that are busier than others; schedules ebb and flow. What if we didn’t compare our schedules to our co-workers, friends, or the other moms on social media? That seems like such an easy concept, but putting it into action can be difficult.
Maybe what you need is an hour or two alone every day. Maybe that looks like getting up an hour before everyone else and working out or having quiet time. Maybe it is turning your phone off after the kids are in bed and spending an hour with a book. Maybe it’s deleting social media from your phone, taking emails off your phone on the weekends, or even turning your phone completely off for an entire day.
I think part of the issue is that we think we are too important. We feel we have to respond to emails immediately and that we can’t let our inbox build up. We think we have to have social media so we can stay in touch with our friends and family. We don’t put ourselves and our health (mental, physical, and emotional) first. But how do you expect to be your best when you are running yourself ragged and into the ground?
I have had to learn recently that no is a complete sentence. Sometimes I need to say no for my own sanity, and I don’t have to give a long explanation as to why I’m saying no. Sometimes saying no to one thing will open the door for another opportunity, and possibly even a better opportunity. Furthermore, saying no can lead to us saying our best yes. *Side note: go read The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst. It may very well change your life.*
There is the secret: we can become her by becoming the best version of ourselves. The version that loves others, takes care of herself, prioritizes, learns to say no, and manages her time well.
Another way we can Become Her 2.0 is to not compare our journey to anyone else’s. We are all on different paths. We are all struggling with our own things. Even when we try to be, we are never completely transparent and honest on social media. So let’s learn how to focus on our own journey, quit playing the comparison game, and see how much happier we are. It’s amazing how freeing it can be when you stop comparing and judging and just live your own life.
If you take one thing away from this blog, it should be the following: it’s not about having the busiest calendar, it’s about living the most full life.
Kelsey is one of those people who will tell you that Texas is the best state and Nashville is the best city. She loves traveling, exploring, local coffee shops, and reading. Thankfully she has a job that allows her to do all of these things. She is fluent in sarcasm, wants to be Jess from New Girl, and above all wants to build other women up instead of tearing them down. All of her social media handles are @riotkelsey and she blogs over at riotkelsey.wordpress.com
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