There are so many different kinds. How do we know how to prioritize, or which ones are the best for our well-being? Is it the meaningful ones that we need to pay attention to the most? Will it be the one that will get us the farthest in our career, or one that will cure the quick fix for something missing?
If you are having a difficult time balancing building your empire, loving those closest to you, or keeping your personal sanity in fine tune, trust me, you are not alone.
It can be such a challenge these days to know what is real, what is honest, and what is best for our lives now that will mold our future.
Try this. Take a minute to think about the true, heart thumping, life empowering, could not be without said person, type of relationships. Put those to the safe side. Now make room for the overthinking, over planning, never make anything happen, eye gouging, stubborn, over it, type of relationships you think might someday come in handy, and just place them in a small untouched corner, because someday is not today.
Spare yourself the extra heartache and headache, and be with the kinds of people you want to feed your soul. They will help guide you in all the directions you need to go.
Here are a few ‘types’ of relationships and ways to handle each in this constantly changing environment.
FriendSHIPS that will sail in the deepest seas
Take every person you meet, and learn something from them. Find and keep the ones that put the wind in your sails and carry you along through the sunny days and the crazy storms. These friends will help with your crazy awesome ideas, bring you back to reality, keep your home life in tack when you think it’s falling apart.
You need these people!
Make time for them! You are never too busy to stop what you are doing and take a 15-minute phone call to just check in. It’s invigorating to care so much about someone and their dreams!
The professional world
I have had the opportunity to work in many fields of labor if you will. I have met some extraordinary people along the way. Many whom have taught me so much, I could never express my gratitude enough. I have also met some I have said to myself, “Thank me later for that idea, it may make you millions.” Whether it did or not, I don’t even want to know.
But, what I have learned is that we must protect our dreams. We must surround ourselves with people we know will build us up. Help us grow. Allow us to be our true selves, and create the life we want. It is also SO important that we be true, honest, and genuine to others. Treat others as you want to be treated. –Luke 6:31 I have lived by this my entire life. Which is why I have a select few group of people I have stuck with.
Don’t keep yourself in a situation that will tarnish your good spirit. Especially if it is just to see where working with someone can take you. Balance yourself. Don’t be afraid to network! This is a great way to meet all kinds of people, to find out who ‘clicks’ and helps you grow.
This one. It’s a special one. Do not stop reading if you are single. This can be family too! But, there was a time, okay a solid 2 ½ years, I had nothing to do with boys, because all I was focused on was building my career. Ladies, there is nothing wrong with this!
You may need to take away the distraction of giving yourself to someone else, and that’s okay. But let me tell you this as well, when you love someone, ‘so much it hurts’ as I tell my Honey Bee, you will know that building your empire could not happen without the love and support from that person, and you giving that support right back.
Be that power couple!
I am that stubborn friend who, at times, does not give up date night, (yes I will reschedule) but my time with my love is the utmost important. I plan on keeping him around for a long time, so letting him know how valuable he is to me is crucial. Maybe we plan date night/day with someone who wants to talk business, and that’s okay, as long as he knows serious talk will occur at some point.
I want my best friends to know how valuable they are as well. Balance!
For us creatives, this is typical.
My man and I have two different types of careers. I work from home, 7 days a week, 24 hours a day, on a lot of different ‘things,’ mostly just me and my computer or my paint brush. His work is Monday-Friday 8-6 with a lot of human interaction.
Relatively both have our own levels of stress and excitement. At times, for me, putting my computer away, even when I have this crazy awesome idea, can be tough. But I know he needs me at the end of the day, just as much as I need him.
My projects will get completed, my phone will get checked, his friends will get a text or phone call back. We know this. We still make the effort to eat dinner and watch a show or movie, with no outside world to keep us from enjoying that time to revive and discuss life together.
We send each other encouraging, uplifting, full of power messages to push each other through our tough days. It’s vital! Have kids? That time at dinner, or that positive message is the best ‘to-do’ you’ll add to your day hands down.
Do the things that keep each other moving and grooving every day, so you can build the life you want and the career you desire.
Friends, find your inner beauty and share it with those whom deserve it. Give what creative feels you can to the world, and hold on to the things that bring you peace and growth. Lead with your gut. Your heart has a way of detouring you to places that can set you back.
So, lead with your gut until your heart knows what is going on, and can be trusted, then you can follow it.
Love yourself. Love one another.
Jamie Aileen is an artist. She is a painter, photographer, and had begun her writing journey to share more of all that is beautiful in this world. She recently launched her online store for her art pieces at www.byjamieaileen.com. Follow her on Instagram @byjamieaileen.