A word I thought I understood until I tried to find it.
Society tells us to work hard, but not too hard because you don’t want to burn out. Chase your passions, but don’t take too many risks because that could mean you’re irresponsible. Make time for a social life, but don’t get carried away because come Saturday night you should be home working or else you aren’t a true hustler.
As soon as you lean into one area of your life, you hear another area whispering louder and louder for attention.
The more I experience the true weight of chasing balance, the less I believe in the word or concept all together.
By definition, balance is: an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady.
Life is not evenly distributed. So why do we fight for balance? Why do we read books and listen to podcasts about work-life balance?
To find peace. To find rest. To find wholeness.
It’s hard to find wholeness when you’re focused on making sure your energy is evenly distributed among all the areas of your life.
Instead of us chasing balance, what if instead we were in a fearless pursuit for wholeness?
- the state of forming a complete and harmonious whole; unity.
- the state of being unbroken or undamaged.
The second definition speaks volumes. Imagine if every area of your life was unbroken or undamaged. Image if you lived a harmonious life filled with unity and self awareness.
You might be thinking, this seems just as unattainable as trying to find balance. And you may be right.
Balance and wholeness both require work. Would you rather work on creating a harmonious life where you strive to mend the brokenness and make room for consistent growth? Or search for balance in every area of your life making sure that you’ve checked all your boxes and the weight of your life is evenly distributed?
Self care, self love, self awareness. All take extreme amounts of work. As high-energy, ladyboss women, the work we do can take a massive toll on us. And without these three things, it will be difficult to reach our full potential.
True success is rooted in wholeness. It’s rooted in the long days and long conversations filled with opportunities to know ourselves and know the people in our lives on a whole new level.
Let’s redefine balance and stop chasing unrealistic expectations society has placed on our schedules and goals.
Let’s chase a whole life.
Alexis Teichmiller is a lifestyle blogger and millennial podcast host of, The Laptop Lifestyle – a podcast for virtual entrepreneurs, millennials on the go, and adventure seekers with big dreams. Her mission in life is to inspire people to take action on their goals and explore their true creativity. Alexis spends her days working for an email marketing software called ConvertKit, where she teaches people how to use email marketing to grow their online business. Her main passion is creating lifestyle content for brands. She has worked with brands like Coach, Turo, Airbnb, SheIn, VaynerMedia, and Shop Tobi to name a few.