Motivation. It can be a fleeting, fickle thing. You seem to have it when you don’t really need it, and when you are desperate for it it is nowhere to be found. Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom before the motivation finally kicks in.
Motivation: the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way; the general desire or willingness of someone to do something.
Seems easy enough right?
But what do we do when motivation isn’t enough? When is all the hard work going to pay off?
My story with motivation begins about four years ago. I volunteered at a big arena tour to help with merchandise, which is something I had never done before. After that night, I left with the information of the band’s merchandise manager/tour manager and a newfound sense of confidence in abilities I didn’t even know I had.
Fast forward to a year later, and I made the decision to move to Nashville. I had never been there before, but I knew I wanted to live there. At the time I was a junior in college, taking full loads every semester with classes during any and all breaks we had. I also had three part-time jobs to save up for the big move. You could say I was pretty motivated.
Once I got to Nashville, the motivation slowed down. It was almost like I had accomplished my goal so what else was there to do? I regret this.
That first year of being in town I would be a part of two tours, several dates on a women’s conference, an awards show, and a summer festival. Seems pretty good, but if you put all that work together it probably equaled about 15 weeks of the year…which leaves about 37 weeks of not working.
This past June I quit my job in order to fully pursue a career on the road. I reached out to close friends, acquaintances, friends of friends, and people I hadn’t talked to in months. I was asking to meet for coffee and to share my story.
Do you know how vulnerable it is to sit across from someone you barely know (or don’t know at all) and tell them what your passions and dreams are?! It was scary at times, but I don’t regret it one bit. I pushed myself outside of my comfort zone. I made connections with people in an industry I love. I am trying to make a name for myself, and you have to work for what you want. I realized I am not happy when I am sitting behind a computer at a desk from 9am-5pm. So I took a leap of faith and made a change.
Yes, it’s scary not knowing when or where my next paycheck is coming from. Yes, it’s stressful not always knowing how you are going to pay your bills. But that makes my motivation that much stronger. Not only do I want a job on the road, I NEED a job on the road. I want to go back to four years ago when I had three part-time jobs in order to make my dreams a reality. I want to be that girl again.
My advice to you today is to put yourself out there. Chase your dreams. Reach out to someone who inspires you, an old co-worker you haven’t talked to in a while, or a complete stranger. Tell yourself that once a week you will grab coffee with someone who can help you meet your goals.
Don’t just do it so you can have financial security. Do it for yourself. Do it for the family and friends that are back home cheering you on. Do it to be an example to other women who are in the same boat as you. Do it so you can tell your children how you made the impossible possible.
As a woman, I believe it is one of my duties to cheer on other women. To stand beside them through the good, the bad and the ugly. To hold their hand and be a shoulder to cry on. To celebrate the little wins just as much as the big wins. It is time we stop competing against each other, and come alongside one another in love and support. We are stronger together.
I am cheering for you. You got this.
Kelsey is one of those people who will tell you that Texas is the best state and Nashville is the best city. She loves traveling, exploring, local coffee shops, and reading. Thankfully she has a job that allows her to do all of these things. She is fluent in sarcasm, wants to be Jess from New Girl, and above all wants to build other women up instead of tearing them down. All of her social media handles are @riotkelsey and she blogs over at riotkelsey.wordpress.com