We all have a story. And we all have unique ways in which we see the world. Some of the filters we use are healthy, but others we may not even realize are hurtful to us, and others, too.
How were we designed to see ourselves, and are the things we tell ourselves when we look in the mirror, or at others, life-giving or inviting pain and lies?
What is true?
What’s true about God? What’s true about you? What’s true about “others?”
Have you ever stopped to think about these questions? Or have you taken most things at face value…it is what it is…there’s no changing a situation, another person, or ourselves?
We hear about “fake news,” yet, part of our humanity has been conditioned to believe if someone else said it, if it’s on TV, our news feed, in a book, magazine or a blog, or on social media, it’s got to be true, right?!
But what about the game we played when we were kids called, “Telephone?” The one where the first person says something into the ear of the next person playing and the goal is to repeat the exact statement, from person to person, until the last person repeats the statement out loud to see if what they heard was the same thing the original person had said in the first place.
Except we all know during the game of “Telephone” the original and final statements never line up.
There’s a disconnect, and depending on how many people were playing the game at the time, the disconnect or jumbling of the original message, what was “true,” could have happened anywhere within the game, yet all the last person heard was only a portion of the original statement, if they’re lucky.
Circumstances are sometimes out of our control, but how we respond to them is always our choice.
Love is also a choice, and choosing to love ourselves is up to us. It’s all about perspective, and keeping our heads and hearts tuned into what’s true about who God is and who he made us to be.
Because when we were made, God said it was, “Good.”
Yet, what are the things we say to ourselves on any given day? What are thoughts we have about others? Whether stereotypes, strong opinions, or generalizations? Do the words we hear in our heads line up with what was spoken about us from the beginning of time?
What would your life look like if you cut off the negative internal dialogue?
What could happen if instead you started saying what was actually true, “You are miraculous! You’re one in 7 billion, unique, and created in the image of God…what CAN’T you do?”
We’ve all believed a lie at some point in our lives, whether we knew it was a lie or not, whether we trusted and loved the person who told us the lie, whether it was intentional, or not. We can beat ourselves up, or continue to blame everyone else and their dog for the lies, or we can: Pause. Take a look inside. Look at the miraculous reflection in the mirror, shut out the voices that fight for our heart and mind’s attention, and begin to ask, instead:
- “Is it true?”
- “Is it useful?”
- “Does this thought bring life and love to me or others?”
If the answers keep coming up, “No,” it’s time to re-evaluate.
It’s time to face those dragons and slay them for what they are: lies meant to keep us from living our truest stories. Join us on Thursday, June 14th, while we uncover the truth about who we are, explore strategies for shifting into a more positive mindset, and encourage each other to live our truest stories.
Adrienne moved from beautiful Colorado to creative Nashville to hone her saucy writing skills. A former women’s pastor with a background in Leadership Development, she founded BEVY, a non-profit organization that joins women in revolutionary mentoring relationships. Adrienne thrives to inspire women to tell their stories shamelessly with beauty and confidence. She and her husband of 25 years and their two dreamy kids love traveling, throwing spontaneous parties, and playing games at dinner as they rate new recipes made in their DIY kitchen. Adrienne blogs her guts out at www.adriennegraves.com and on IG @adexoxox.
*Photo by Christy Shaterian Photography